Fella's and ladie's what are some little things that's can make or break the experience for you ? Example maybe the room is lit with candles, she has extra clean towels, maybe she cuddles? Maybe she dressed up and put thought on how she presented herself.
What are some so small items that could break the date, tardiness, lack of communication, meaning not prompt on replying to messages ect. I personally like to offer a drink, I keep my go to drink on hand and love to have a drink before or after depending on the vibe I get from my company. I like to cuddle tons and always keep the room smelling fresh and candle lite to set the mood but sometimes the candles run out lol. How about you ladies? Anything special you do ? I would love to pick up some new good treatment perks for my company. Jessica JordanAlso, if she smells bad I will be less than pleased. Smokers, ask before lighting up please!
Scented candles get our clothes and hair all perfumed and it's a hard to hide that later. Some people are ALLERGIC to the perfumes and chemicals given off by some candles. A BIG negatory to many of us. Some use unscented candles or even electric candles. Low light can enhance a mood if it's there and SOMETIMES help to create a mood but some kinds of action deserve Klieg lights. If he (or she) doesn't mention it up front, you should definitely ask if he (or she) minds scented candles in advance of the meeting.
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Some of us have had experiences wherein dim lights (candles) were used to disguise the fact that our hostess was not quite the lady in the pictures.
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I tend to notice negatives more than standard stuff or positives. NO TOWELS!?!! is very noticeable! Regular towel availability is to be expected.
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I think the worst mood breaker is a clock watcher. "Times up! Get dressed! Get out!" On the contrary, I have had short hours that ended smoothly, sweetly and enjoyably because she made it such a perfect transition.
Fella's and ladie's what are some little things that's can make or break the experience for you ? Example maybe the room is lit with candles, she has extra clean towels, maybe she cuddles? Maybe she dressed up and put thought on how she presented herself.
What are some so small items that could break the date, tardiness, lack of communication, meaning not prompt on replying to messages ect.
I personally like to offer a drink, I keep my go to drink on hand and love to have a drink before or after depending on the vibe I get from my company. I like to cuddle tons and always keep the room smelling fresh and candle lite to set the mood but sometimes the candles run out lol.
How about you ladies? Anything special you do ? I would love to pick up some new good treatment perks for my company.
Jessica Jordan
she's not going to have any hot wax to pour on your balls, so where's the fun in THAT!
... expectation of hot wax on the balls and being denied. But a tens unit is a good substitute.
To get a few smiles. You two sound like you are little reckless with your nuts! Keep those guys safe if you want them to last.
,The buffer wheel on the other hand.....
These make: having snacks and/or refreshments for a date more than an hour; asking if I want to go again (basically saying she wants to do it again regardless of length of the date); complimenting me (my clothes, something about my appearance); intelligent conversation during a break in the action; Something out of the ordinary, eg. One gal I knew a few years ago did incalls at her apartment. She had a great voice and played guitar and would sing a little as we talked about music before saying our goodbye.
These break: Not looking like her pictures; being late and disorganized (still brushing her teeth); phone interruptions; RL drama.
Only one provider has ever called me by my name, which I think is special. The others just called me "babe" or some such.
My first time with P4P was at a brothel. The young lady put her arm around my waist as we walked. Nobody had ever done that before, including my ex, and it was a wonderful feeling.
... the lady held my hand as we walked to the room, then to the table shower, then back to the room. I hadn't had my hand held by a woman in years. I felt like a kid again--it was charming.
Oh wait, I didn't feel like a kid, I was a kid. lol
The first time I was in an AMP was way back in the 70s when I was a teenager and since it was in San Francisco Chinatown, all the MP's were AMPs. I don't believe there was a table shower though, and I think it took her about three strokes after the flip before I shot a load halfway to the ceiling. lol
Your list is great - I would also add that after finishing a round, when the lady grabs a warm damp towel to clean you up...that alone is practically worth a performance point for me - very small gesture that goes a long way.
Eye contact is huge too. The more the better. Makes the session so much more erotic.
Most important to me is how I am greeted and how the action gets started. I wanted to be greeted as if I'm her lover after a long time of separation. Then I want action to start on a spontaneous note mainly with me doing most of the initiation. Definitely hate to made feel as if she's following a script. No impersonal assembly-line service please!
I'm only with you for an hour or so....please don't stop everything to take a look at that latest text. All I will be thinking is that it is from your next customer and it will kill the mood completely.
Agreed, that's really irritating. Bugs me too. But I thought your biggest pet peeve was NCNS?
Oh that's not a pet peeve - that's way WAY worse than just a pet peeve.
a Kgirl calls me "Honey." Its like I'm the only customer they have . . . . at that moment.
We probably take for granted.
A clean, tidy and welcoming incall. Hard to forget the lady who left a floater in the bathroom for me to encounter when I went to freshen up.
Remember many of your clients are going to want to DATY. Everything fresh there?
You may love your pets, but that's not the kind of threesome most guys are looking for. Maybe they can play somewhere else.
What makes you feel sexy? Candles and lingerie? Then do that unless your guest has requested otherwise. If you're relaxed I'm more likely to be relaxed.
Get the business part out of the way early. Not only the envelope but any special rules or incorrect data in your profile about what you offer.
Save the multi-orgasmic thrashing and screaming for the 22 year olds who need the ego boost. If I'm doing it right and you're enjoying it I should be able to figure it out.
And show up. If you're just not into it today or the mailman just delivered a huge tax bill, it might be better to postpone. Nothing quite like going down on a girl and looking up to find her staring at the ceiling or her reaching for her mobile 5 seconds after I've finished.
Honesty is nice.
Upsell is really a bad mood killer for me.
Extra stringent rules presented with attitude is also a big time buzz kill.
We know there are rules, and we want to understand your safety and comfort requirements (hopefully most of us anyway) but ladies can present them in a way that isn't such a turn off.
Being nice goes a long way. I understand that everybody won't always "click" but for an hour or 2 it should be doable.
Having a drink together is a simple thing that I like.
A nice warm and wet mouth hug on my D always makes me feel pretty dang special too.
It has always stuck with me, and brought the big broad smile that any provider should love to see:
After a wonderful overnight, a gal thanked me for "...all the great sex."
Sure, it's just a line, but what a line.
Make: Lots of eye contact/ a song that captures the moment
Break: drinking too much booze/clinical detachment - see ya!
Pretty much agree with what everyone has said.
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Love getting a nice thank you note after the date. Really makes me want to go back.
Hate bad email. By bad I mean either missing information or just rude/curt. If I send someone a nice note, include all the info they asked for, made it clear why I want to see them I'd like more than "OK. Can meet Thur. PM." Doesn't need to be fancy, but sound like a human being just a little interested in me.
There's only one provider who has sent me a thank-you text after our date. I find that astonishing. In the two businesses I've run, I've made it a point to thank the customer by phone or email after the job or sale. Even customers who had very small jobs or sales, and by small sale, I mean $10 or $15.
I pay a provider $1600 for four hours. How much effort does it take to write a short text to say thanks? Does she realize how much of an effect that simple text could have on making the customer consider a repeat visit?
Here are a few things my favs have done over the years to make that first difference.
We started with a dfk. It's happened a few different times, but not as often as one would think given the circumstances.
She literally ran, and jumped into my arms. I could feel her heart pounding. I knew she was excited to meet me.
We traded a weeks worth of intimate emails prior to that first session. When we met, it was like the fifth session.
She sat me down for 30 minutes of conversation. She put me at ease by saying it was otc.
Prior to our first session, she sent me, a tasteful, pussy shot. I loved it. I couldn't wait to get over there, and fully taste it. I still have the pic.
She decorated her hotel room to the hilt. She also had many different toiletries, drinks, snacks, and sexy music playing. I felt like I was in a European brothel. I noticed all of those things after the dfk.
...is COMMUNICATION.
Since I plan my playdates well ahead of time and with well-researched and well-reviewed providers, there's usually a fair amount of back and forth via email, text, occasionally photos and a phone call here & there.
Part of it is exchanging jokes or funny shit that happens, part of it is sexy talk and the rest is usually mundane stuff.
But it does get us comfortable with one another and pays huge dividends when we meet. Gives us common ground other than the naked parts and that's important to me -- and the ladies I see are also big fans.
Clear communication. God that is sexy and respectful. And punctuality.
Welcoming with a warm embrace.
Some soft music and light sensual dancing.
What small things can make a large difference?
1) Communication. Over-communicate. Ideally before we meet. I love it when a lady sends notes or pics or videos that get me thinking of her a few days before we meet. A personalized e-mail or note goes a long way. A simple thank you text or e-mail is sufficient. Effective communication can overcome a lot of other potential deal breakers. Especially tardiness. If a lady is going to be late and provides me with an honest assessment of how late, then I will respect that so long as I feel like she is letting me know as soon as she should have reasonably known. On the other hand, I hate it when a lady tells me 5 minutes when she means at least 30 minutes.
2) Cleanliness. Cleanliness is next to godliness. She doesn't have to stay at a 5 star hotel. A 3.5/4 star is usually good enough. The bathroom, however, is critical. People make a lot of assumptions about a person based on their bathroom. Perceptions are formed about the lady's hygiene, how many guys she has seen that day, and many other behaviors. A dirty bathroom with lots of trash and/or used towels on the floor is a huge turn off.
3) Efficient screening. If a lady makes screening painless and easy, that could differentiate her from the rest of the ladies. Quite frankly, at any given time I might be considering a handful of ladies. Often times, there isn't a clear cut choice. The early bird usually gets the worm (pun intended).
4) Appearance. This should go without saying, but I love it when a lady answers the door looking fantastic. An elegant form fitting dress goes a long ways. Excessive make up can be a turn off.
5) Engagement. Effective feedback and encouragement throughout the session. If you are happy, then I am usually happy. Tone of voice can also go a long way. Mature providers are generally much better at that than younger ladies.
6) Complements. I just met with a lady who complemented me on almost everything: my physique, my cock, my performance, and even my tastes. She was a pro and most of it was fake, but it doesn't matter.
7) Seconds and thirds. The same lady not only asked me for seconds, but after I got out of the shower and was dressing in preparation to leave, she intervened prevented me from doing so.
8) Cuddling. During a break, I love it when the lady wants her body close to mine. Or when she puts her head on my chest. Sounds cheesy, but it could go a long way. Maybe it is best to reserve this for repeat customers.
9) A well-written e-mail. As I have gotten older, the mental connection has become more and more important. Unfortunately, I don't get excited when the wind blows anymore. I mentioned this above, but I will mention it again - a personalized note afterwards goes a long ways. So does a playful attitude. A little cat and mouse.
10) Gestures. If you are late or something happens that impacts the experience, then a gesture goes a long ways. A lady who was 10 minutes late texted me and told me to take $50 off her rate. I didn't accept, but the gesture meant something to me and my respect for her increased. I appreciate having the right of refusal.
11) Smoke. I hate it when the lady and/or the room smell like smoke. That is a deal breaker. Ditto with any sort of drugs - that is also a deal breaker.
12) Phone ringing. This should be obvious.
13) Pets in room. I have heard stories about providers bringing small dogs or cats with them. That is a large distraction. Plus people have allergies.
14) Upselling. This should also go without saying. Actually, talking about money at all is a turn off.
15) Preparation. Being prepared with cleaning supplies will go a long ways. At a minimum, have baby wipes. "Cleaning kits" are appreciated. Not having appropriate cleaning supplies available is a deal breaker.
Sincerely