8 Positions for Clit Stimulation That’ll Make Sex *So* Much Better
Your clit is one of the most sensitive parts of your body—time to give it the attention it deserves!
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Not-so-fun fact: Most of the sex positions you see on TV or in movies are all about thrusting and penetration, and not at all designed to stimulate the thing that makes most people with vaginas actually orgasm—the clitoris! That’s why we put together this handy (heh) list of sex positions for clit stimulation that are specifically designed to make your most sensitive spot a priority. Because, yes, you deserve to cum, and we want to help you get there.
“Clitoral stimulation is the most direct and reliable path to pleasure and orgasm for many folks,” says Jess O’Reilly, PhD, resident sexologist at Astroglide. (Most people with vaginas don’t orgasm with penetrative sex alone—it’s extremely normal!)
But clitoral stimulation isn’t just about “pressing the button,” says O’Reilly. The clitoris is surprisingly extensive and way bigger than the tiny section on top that you can physically see. That means there’s tons of ways to stimulate it that go beyond just rubbing your vulva. (Although that’s pretty great too.) “You can stimulate the inner bulbs and legs of the clitoris through the lips, so positions that allow for rubbing, grinding, pulsing, or creating pressure along the entire vulva can lead to clitoral erections, pleasure and orgasm,” says O’Reilly.
To get the kind of clit stimulation that’s more likely to lead to orgasms, go ahead and take matters into your own hands. Try positions that inherently give you whatever grinding/pressure/rubbing you like (like the clitoral alignment technique, or CAT) or just add your favorite stimulation to whatever you’re doing with a partner using a vibrator or your fingers. You can make pretty much any penetrative position instantly more clit-friendly with fingering, a favorite sex toy, or even just adjusting the angle a little bit to get the clit more involved.
And if you want to skip penetration entirely, you should feel empowered to do so! There are tons of outercourse options to give your clit some love, including mutual masturbation, dry humping, using toys on each other, or luxuriously long sessions of oral sex.
When you’re ready to level-up your game, here’s what our experts recommend for max clitoral stimulation.
The Tunnel of Love
Assume the doggy style position, but instead of a straight-on pounding, have your partner slide their penis or strap-on under you, rubbing it across your clit. Lube up your hand and cup it around the shaft to create sort of a makeshift vag/hand job thing, so that you both get yours.
For a penetrative alternative, live on your stomach with your partner on top and have them enter you from behind. “Cup your hand or a flat toy around your vulva to create a ‘pocket’ against which you rub, pulse and/or grind,” says O’Reilly. “The pressure and weight of both of your bodies, combined with the fullness of penetration, can create a more overwhelming sensation.”
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The Lap Dance
Take a seat on your partner’s lap facing them, and angle yourself so your clit is exactly where you want it. “Slide them inside and rock back and forth as you grind against them. You can move your hips in a circular motion so that you slide backward at the bottom (as you grind/rub) and thrust slightly forward as you reach the tip.” If this doesn’t do it for you—again, completely normal—use your hand to rub your clit or bring in a toy to do the job.
Tabletop Service
“Stand next to a table, counter or bed (at hip height) and bend over so that your upper body rests on the furniture,” suggests O’Reilly. “Your partner slides in from behind and you press your body against the edge of the furniture. You can lean into it for sustained pressure or slide up and down as you slide yourself onto your partner.” If you’d prefer to avoid that kind of intimacy with your furniture, press a flat toy between the table or bed and your vulva.
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The Top Up
“Your partner lies on their back. You lie on top of them so that you’re both facing the ceiling,” says O’Reilly. “Guide them inside and squeeze your legs together as they rock against you and you slide slightly up and down.” This works well if your partner has a large penis. If they're on the smaller side, sit up a little and lean back on your hands. “Don’t overthink the movements—just find a rhythm that works for you,” she says. “You (or your partner) can use your hands or a vibrating toy for extra stimulation.”
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The Open Bar
Lots of people have their most reliable orgasms by leaning back and rubbing, circling, or tapping their clits. If this is you, then do that. Hop on a bar stool (or dresser or table) and spread your legs. The positioning gives you free rein to rub yourself as you please.
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Riding the Edge
Lie on your back with your partner flat on top of you, then straighten your legs and press them together with their legs on the outside. Roll your hips slowly and take your time. When one or both of you feels close, stop. Kiss, stroke their back, stare into their eyes, whatever stops the momentum. Repeat 'til you both are dying to finish—the point is to get so turned on that even if your clit isn't getting stimulated in exactly the way you like it, orgasm is beyond inevitable. Add an arousal gel for extra intensity.
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The Grinder
If you're a grinder (think: folded blanket, pillow, etc.), try recreating the feeling with an actual human by mounting your partner, facing their feet and pressing your vulva zone onto their leg while they’re inside you (vaginally or anally both work). They thrust, you hump their leg, everyone’s happy.
Leaning Cowgirl
Standard cowgirl is great, but if you've tried it and it doesn't do much for you, you're going to need to bring in reinforcements. Lean down and rub against your partner’s pubic bone, or have them rub a lubed thumb across your clit. For more super-charged results, try a vibrating cock ring or wand vibrator.
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Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.
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